How do we honor the lost of a precious life? When I lost my baby, I didn't know how I would continue to live. However, over the years, there are many things I have done to commemorate my dear sweet baby Cade, yet I would like to share one powerful moment with you.
First, let me apologize, it's been a while since I have posted, but one thing I have learned after losing my firstborn is that it is necessary to take time for self. And that is what I have done over the last few months.
However, I felt it necessary to post about commemoration. Commemoration comes from the Latin commemorate ‘bring to remembrance’ . How can you bring to remembrance the positives from the loss of a child? First, parents must find a positive.
I remember wrestling with the decision to share with my future children that they had a brother. Finally, I concluded that the ultimate way to commemorate my firstborn was to allow him to exist in the life of my children. Was I nervous to do so? Indeed. However, I have not regretted the decision because my children commemorate their brother in ways I would not have imagined.
My daughter has written poems, songs, and drawn pictures.
My son says he plays with his brother.
When I often grow tired and weary as parents often do, I am reminded of the precious gift of two healthy children. And, the gift of my firstborn, who taught me to honor and cherish these moments.
Today, I made homemade biscuits with my children. As we kneaded the biscuit dough and created our own memories, my 5 year old asked, "Can we use the angel?" as he picked up the angel cookie cutter. My daughter added, "We can make Cade biscuits!" As I nodded yes, all I could think was, "Wow, what a way to remember this precious life. "These children offered such a simple way to honor their brother, my child, our angel.
What can you do today to remember your precious child?